Everything Starts With A Kiss 0 comments

Do you take a kiss for granted? Watch out , 'cause what you don't know might actually harm you. The kiss is the single most underrated intimate display of affection. The kiss is the key that opens the door to both her heart, and her body. A study on kissing was done a few years back, and found that most women based their decision of whether they would sleep with a man, on his kissing abilities!

So, before you go on your next date, read on, and find out how you can make that first kiss linger in her mind and tingle in her body.

Keep It Simple and Sexy

If eyes are known to be the windows to our soul, then lips are the servants of our consciousness. Our lips respond to happy thoughts by smiling, they express our innermost emotions with words of love and hope, and they are able to convey what no words can, by kissing.

Couples should not limit kissing merely to times like making out , or as the conclusion to a date or a prelude to something more... Kissing your lover should be an everyday affair, an expression of your love for her. You should not use every kissing session as a prelude to sex.

Many men think to themselves, let's hurry up so we can get down to the good stuff . As a result, they rush through the kissing and do not get to fully enjoy the delightfulness of a long, passionate, kiss.

The secret to being a great kisser is to keep it simple and sexy. Forget about impressing her with that Casanovian kiss. Instead, indulge yourself in a simple, sexy and intimate kiss. Rid your mind of any kissing performance thoughts, and instead, realize that she's opening the door to her soul and body. Enjoy the moment!

Great Kisser = Great Lover

Kissing is an art form. The kissing experience is different for each of us, but the basic fundamentals of kissing remain the same.

The first step to kissing is known as finding her comfort level . Make sure she is ready for a kiss and do not start anything until she is comfortable.
Use your hands when kissing. Many people waste their hands while kissing by simply using them as some form of support. You could wrap them around her waist, use them to clutch her back, or massage her scalp. Wherever your hands are, use them. Slowly increase pressure, or gently graze in non-erotic zones like the back, shoulders, arms and face.

Don't only kiss the lips. Kiss her eyes, cheeks, forehead, neck, and hands, and remember her to watch out for her comfort level. She will be more relaxed, and will appreciate your kiss if it's sincere and sexy, and she'll definitely notice if it's fake. Finally, use your imagination.

Kissing Mistakes

The following is a list of kisses you should avoid:

The Lizard: Your tongue darts in and out of her mouth like a reptile probing for its next victim.

The Roto Rooter: Your tongue ventures so far down her throat that it actually begins to choke her.

The Swordfish: You operate your tongue much like a swordfish, and use your nose in a blunt and violent manner.

The Deep Sea Diver: You rarely come up for air.

Frozen in Time: You never change the position, posture, or angle of your head.

The Squid: You seem to emit an awful smell and taste. All she can think of is how to slip you a breath mint.

*by Andre Cross, http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice/dating5.html*

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Top 10: Things You Should Never Say To A Woman

There are a lot of great -- and terrible -- articles written on “lines” to say to a woman, but what about what not to say? It is my opinion that many mistakes can be avoided by keeping your mouth closed. So, without further ado, here are the 10 things you should never say to a woman.


No.1 - "Can I kiss you?"

Ask any woman and she will tell you; a man should never “ask” for a kiss. Asking for a kiss goes against everything a woman is looking for in a man. You may as well just tell her right there that you are a boy. Her answer might be “yes” if she's being polite, but her attraction meter on the inside will read a firm, “no!”


No.2 - "Can I take you out on a date sometime?"

Similar to No. 1, a woman wants to be with a man who is a leader and in control, not someone who asks her permission to hit on her. Don’t ever ask a woman if you can take her out, just ask her out. But do it in a confident way. It can be as simple as saying, “We should hang out. What’s your number?” Or even telling her a specific place you want to take her: “Hey, let’s take a salsa lesson together, it will be fun!’


No.3 - Anything about your car, job or house that sounds like you are trying to impress her

Do you know what kind of guys brag about their cars, jobs and houses to women? Well, the truth is a lot of different kinds of guys, but women put them all in one category: guys who have nothing else to offer. I’m serious, ask any attractive woman about this and she’ll agree. Sure, you may attract some women, but even those women will be far more impressed by your material possessions if you don't mention them in conversation.


No.4 - "What do you want to do tonight?"

There is a saying that a woman likes a “man with a plan,” and it is absolutely true. When you call a woman to hang out, make sure you have a game plan. Don’t put the burden on her or she won’t see you as the type of guy who can show her a good time.


No.5 - "Do you like me?"

If I had to pick out a single phrase that shuts a woman’s attraction switch off permanently, this is it. Asking a woman a question like this is the opposite of being confident. So don’t ask, just assume she likes you, and go from there. I mean, hey, who wouldn’t?


No.6 - "I left you a message the other day, but didn’t hear back. What happened?"

This might be the most common mistake guys make after not hearing back from a woman, and while it sounds trivial, it is a big one. It took me a long time to figure out what to do when a woman didn’t return one of my messages, but I finally figured out it’s best to just ignore it and proceed as if it never happened. If you mention an un-returned message to a woman you are doing two things: 1. Showing that you care that she didn’t return it. (Hint: If you just met a woman it is too soon to care!); and 2. Giving her a guilt trip, which women see as insecurity.


No.7 - "How many guys have you slept with?"

First of all, do you really want to know? Second of all, again you are showing insecurity, especially if you ask this in the beginning. Sure, if she asks you first, go ahead. But trust me, you don’t want to be the one to start this conversation. You can only lose.


No.8 - Anything that hints at a "future"

Often when guys are hanging out with a woman for the first time and she mentions something she likes or likes to do, a guy will use that as an opportunity to hint at a future date. For example, she might say she loves Thai food, so you say, “Wow, so do I. We should go get Thai food sometime.” Stop, stop, stop, stop! While this sounds good in theory, you must remember that women not only want but need a guy who is somewhat of a “challenge.” If partway through the first date you are talking about hanging out again and again and again, she knows that you are really into her, which means the game is over and she has won. Sure, it’s nice to connect with someone when you first hang out with them, and of course you should want to do some fun activities together, but don’t let her know that she has “won you over” too quickly or you’ll come off just like every other guy she’s gone out with that is ready to “put a ring on it” after date No. 1.


No.9 - "I'll call you Friday"

Ending a phone conversation with a “next step” is a good technique if you’re trying to sell someone something, but not when you are talking to a woman. First of all, you are killing any spontaneity by being predictable. Second, you are also killing any chances of her calling you, as she has to now wait for your call or risk looking desperate. Not good.


No.10 - Anything bad about her guy friends

One of the ways a woman marks a guy as “insecure” the fastest is if he starts dissing her guy friends, especially if he hasn’t met them and doesn’t know her very well. Here’s the deal: Even if they are more than friends, you are only making yourself look like you are scared of competition from them, which to a woman screams “insecurity.” Best to just keep your mouth shut when they are mentioned and focus on your game instead.

* by David DeAngelo, http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-things-you-should-never-say-to-a-woman.html*

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Top 10: Ways Guys Kill The Mood 0 comments

For all the guys out there who think women play mind games when it comes to sex -- first they are into you, and the next second they’re not -- consider this: it may not be them, it could be you. If you have had a good date, are into a decent makeout session and all of a sudden your girl has to "get up early" and heads home, you may have inadvertently ruined the mood.

Here are the top 10 ways guys ruin the mood.


No.1 - Managing her moves

Newsflash: Girls know you want them to touch your penis. If you are making out at home, 20 minutes have passed, and she still has not made a grab for the crotch area, chances are, she isn’t going to. Therefore, do not pull her hand toward your genitals, and do not grab the back of her head and push her down. Women are not stupid, and after the head grab she will most likely blow you off -- and not in the way you had hoped.


No.2 - Asking for permission

Most girls like a man who knows how to take charge, so when you ask for permission every step of the way you come across as a wimp. Asking; “Can I kiss you?” at the end of a date, or “Is this OK?” when kissing comes across as weak. You might as well ask: “Can I grow a pair?” Assess the situation; if she's really into it, man up and take the plunge.


No.3 - Heading straight for home

You can’t cross the plate without making stops at first, second and third. Do not hand her a glass of wine, turn on some music, lower the lights and then stick your hand in her pants.


No.4 - Bad conversation

Giving a little verbal praise is always appreciated, but too many “Oh babys” can really kill the mood. Going over-the-top with chatter comes across as fake and forced. Just be natural. If things are really heating up, don’t ask too many questions: “Do you like it when I kiss you?” “Does my hand feel good there?” You shouldn’t have to ask; her reactions will tell you if you are doing a good job.


No.5 - Bad kissing

It doesn’t matter how hot a guy is, if he can’t kiss, he isn’t going past first base. When you lean in for the first end-of-the-date kiss, remember to control your tongue. Don’t lick her teeth, chin, cheeks, forehead, etc., and try not to stick it down her throat.


No.6 - Being selfish

It takes time to get a woman going. She needs kissing, touching, caressing, and more than two minutes to reach orgasm. If you have moved past the make-out stage and the clothes are coming off, take time to focus on her. If you aren’t satisfying her, she could get frustrated (or bored) and call it a night.


No.7 - Begging

A girl most likely makes up her mind before the date regarding how far she is willing to go, but you do have a chance to change her mind. At the end of the night, give her a good kiss that takes her breath away. This is when she might reconsider going home with you. If she still isn’t interested, do not whine or beg. If you beg, you will never get a second chance --ever.


No.8 - Groping

You should have left messy groping behind in the 10th grade. Simply grabbing at her boobs with your tongue hanging out won’t cut it. By now, you should know what to do. Moving randomly from body part to body part is confusing and never gives your girl a chance to get into it. Move slowly from one body part to the next -- lightly touching at first, then with more passion.


No.9 - Answering the phone

Do not, under any circumstances, stop a make-out session to answer the phone. In fact, if you go back to your place at the end of a date, turn your phone off. Interruptions can really put a damper on things, and if it is your mom calling, your girl is probably putting on her jacket already.



No.10 - Bad music

As you dim the lights and turn on a little mood music, choose the tunes carefully. Music relays a message about where the night is headed. Avoid anything too girly (Madonna, Avril Lavigne, Miley Cyrus) and steer clear of the clichés ("Let’s Get It On," "Sexual Healing," "I Wanna Sex You Up"). While rock music can make sex exciting, "Smack My Bitch Up" and anything by Nine Inch Nails should not be used on a first date.

*by Amy Bielby, http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-ways-guys-ruin-the-mood.html*

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Long-Distance Love: Keep Things Spicy When You're Apart 0 comments

Whether you're a military wife, or one of you travels extensively for business, keeping a relationship strong and stimulating long-distance isn't easy. And then there's your long-distance sex life. What sex life, you ask? Believe it or not, with forethought, a little imagination and a lot of naughtiness, it can be done. Here's how:

While You're Apart
Keep your libido topped up

Stop having sex, and you'll stop wanting sex. The more you masturbate when your partner's gone, the more you'll feel like having sex when you're together. Regular orgasms also keep your genitals lubricated and elastic—which means you won't get sore when you're suddenly thrust (literally) into the sex marathon that usually happens when you finally do see each other.

Use erotica for masturbation

Go online and Google "free porn," and you'll find an absolute flesh feast of porn to choose from. [There's even woman-friendly porn.] If porn's not your thing, written erotica might be. Dip into a classic D.H. Lawrence or give Nancy Friday or Black Lace a whirl. Others you might like? Try The Naughty Bits by Jack Murnighan for the steamiest, most scandalous sex scenes from the world's best books—or Full Frontal Fiction, a collection of short, sassy, modern stories.

What if you want to talk dirty, but you feel too shy to do it "live"?

Write out a sexy scenario, borrow one from a magazine or find a sexy passage in a saucy book. Then call your guy's cell phone when you know he won't pick up and read it out loud as a voicemail. You could also write a sexy e-mail, text or IM. Or, if you're feeling extra-brave, try calling him at work when he can't answer back and tell him (in a stress-free one or two sentences) exactly what you've been up to that day... that is to say, lying around in lingerie (naturally)... but then hang up. Remember: Men are very visual.

Feeling a little exhibitionistic?

Check out Web cams. Google "Web cam sex," and you'll see that there are loads of sites where you can make your own porn—live. Now, I'd strongly suggest that you be very, very careful with this one. What I'm suggesting is more a sneak preview than an I-can-see-what-you-had-for-breakfast type of porn. Just join the site, set up the Web cam, send a sexy text message to your partner to link him to the site and then give him the shock of his life when he sees you on screen. You don't have to do much other than sit on the bed, look sexy (pretend you're not aware the camera is on), then get up and take your top off to reveal a sexy push-up bra. It's up to his imagination where you've gone (a cold shower or solo sex). The thrill is simply seeing a "good girl" like you in such a "naughty" environment. You could probably sit there knitting if you wanted to! (I bet you won't want to though: Exhibitionism and voyeurism are the main themes in 80 percent of sexual fantasies.)

When You're Together
Plan some sex sessions

When you're first reunited, any sex feels like good sex because you've both been starved of sex for so long. But once you've taken the edge off, try new things in bed. It's true that absence makes the genitals grow fonder. But if every single time you're together, the sex remains the same, you'll eventually get to the same Yawnsville place as couples who are with each other constantly.

When I say plan a sex session, I don't just mean circle a "sex night" on the calendar. It's got to be done with a healthy helping of anticipation, or it will work against you. Simply saying, "We've got to have sex tonight" is about as sexy as saying, "Tonight we're going to clean out the closet." But if tonight is the night you're going to try doing something naughty, like tying each other up or anal sex, suddenly it's exciting. Planning something new and naughty is erotic. Adding sex to your "to do" list isn't.

Give him one new "treat" every time he comes home

You can start with some testicle play: Try cradling both of his testacles in one hand. Next, circle the flat palm of the other hand over the surface. Another way to do it is by placing your hand palm up under his testicles, then using the thumb and index finger of your other hand to make a fairly tight ring at the top of the scrotum. They should rest in your palm, neatly together. (Picture a bag of marbles with a drawstring pulled tight at the top; that's how it would look.) A gentle downward tug feels exquisite for guys, and it also smoothes out the crinkly skin, making his testicles nice and smooth to stroke. Alternate the stroking with fondling and massaging.

There's really no such thing as bad timing in sex

He's arrived! But so has your period. What now? Here are a few sex positions for that time of the month... even for "fat days."

Don't miss out on any fun!

*taken from http://love.ivillage.com/snd/sndcouplehood/0,,traceycox_dsrgtdp8,00.html*

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Revealing Your Past 0 comments

Everyone has a past. Some of it is great and we want the world to know of our triumphs and achievements, while other parts of it might not be something to be proud of. Our experiences may have made us who we are today, but we don't necessarily want to shout about all of them from the rooftops.

Eventually, a new girl is going to start asking questions about your history. Some of your past is straightforward and can be discussed there and then. The rest of your history might be trickier to disclose, so you'll have to be selective about which details to reveal and which should stay in the vault.

If you have difficulty discerning between these two categories, however, follow our guide to what you should keep quiet from your new love.

Number of women

The one question most women will push is how many women you've slept with. It's also one question you should avoid answering like the plague. There is no good answer to this. If you’ve slept with too few, she'll think you're inexperienced and sheltered. If you’ve slept with too many, she’ll assume you're a player just looking to add some notches to your bedpost.

Avoid answering by insisting it doesn't matter. Tell her all that is in the past and it doesn't matter now because you're with her. If she's forcing the issue, cliches such as “You're the only one who matters” or jokingly insisting she was your first could get you out of it. Similarly, don't express any interest in her number.

If you feel compelled -- or coerced -- to give an answer, stick to the 7-11 rule: If you've been with less than seven women, round up that figure; if there's been more than 11, knock it back down to 11.

Past relationships

Many women ask questions about a man’s past relationships to try and figure out what kind of boyfriend he'll be. How should you handle her dabble in private investigation? Simply don't go into too much detail.

In the early stages of a relationship, talking about an ex should be completely off-limits. They just aren't relevant to the new thing you have going on. Later, as you start to find out more about each other, references to past girlfriends should be limited -- ideally to just a name, a time and a vague description of why it ended.

It's important to show you aren't still emotionally involved in the relationship, which means you shouldn't recount every little thing she did to hurt you. When giving a reason for the breakup, stick to generalities, such as “We were heading in different directions” or “We just outgrew each other,” rather than a blow-by-blow account of every argument you had.

Don't overplay all the bad points of past relationships in an attempt to show the new girl you're over an ex. You'll come across as bitter and still stuck on it. This also sends warning signals to her that if the two of you break up it could be a nasty, drawn-out process.

Should you tell her about those strippers in Tijuana?

Discussing all the good points of a past relationship is a tricky issue. It could lead to jealousy, resentment or her thinking you're still in love with the ex -- you wouldn't like it if all she talked about was how great the boyfriend before you was, now would you? It's best to keep these memories to yourself, and if your current girl does ask about them reply, “I can't really remember -- I haven't thought about her in such a long time.”

Unsavory history

You might think your misspent youth could provide some stories that will make her laugh, but think carefully about the ones you tell. If she's a conservative who’s dead against drugs, don't tell her about that week you spent in Amsterdam. Likewise, a brief spell of shoplifting as a kid could cause her to view the adult you in the wrong light.

Everyone has little adventures in their past that could prove unpalatable to others. As you get to know your new girl better, you can judge which of your stories she will find amusing or interesting, and which stories you should keep buried.

Hidden past

Some of us, however, might have some very big events in our past. Which ones to tell and which to conceal depend on the nature of those secrets and how they could affect the present. For example, an outstanding parking ticket is OK to “forget” -- it's unlikely to cause any problems for your relationship. However, if there is an arrest warrant with your name on it in the next state, it's probably wise to 'fess up.

The same could be said for drug abuse, gambling debts, or any other big secret. If it's truly in the past and done with, there's little point dragging it up too soon. But if there is a chance it could come back to bite you (and her) on the ass, a good move could be to put all your cards on the table.

Wild sexual experiences

That night you went home with the stripper... Those twins in the next dorm at college... That 30-year-old woman you hooked up with when you were 17. Everyone has those little sex stories they're proud of, but don't necessarily brag about them to mom. Well, you shouldn't brag about them to a new girlfriend, either.

While you don't want to come across as inexperienced and naive, you also don't want to paint yourself as a debauched libertine. A couple of steps toward kinky is desirable: Let her know you're open to light bondage, blindfolds, spanking, etc. But don't let her know you once owned an extensive collection of rubber wear.

Save the sex stories for your buddies. With them, it's all laughs. But see how much you'll be laughing when the new girl leaves you for being a pervert, or she tells you a few stories of her own.

It's in the vault

Covering up the past may not be the ideal way to start a new relationship, but it is the easiest, safest route to take. Whether you choose to neglect to mention some events or downright lie about them is up to you. Any detail from the past that could rear its ugly head and cause problems should be dealt with. The rest can be swept under the rug -- to lie next to all the secrets she's been keeping from you.

*by Gary Jackson, http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_150/181b_dating_advice.html*

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6 Things He Doesn't Want You to Know 0 comments

After a certain time in a relationship, women start to equate what she knows about her guy with intimacy. Apparently, knowing all the little details about each other brings you closer together as a couple. Most men correctly identify this instinct as "nosiness."

There are some things that she doesn't need to know: Obviously, details such as the fact that you did time for murder might need to be dealt with sooner rather than later, but there's a host of other little facts that can be safely swept under the carpet. And for your own peace of mind, it's best if you encourage her to keep some of her stories there as well.

Note that we're not condoning outright lying, but it's often better to duck and dive. Skim over details, downplay the facts, or distract her with something shiny -- anything to keep sensitive information under wraps. More often than not, though, it's just a case of you keeping quiet when a stupid thought pops into your head. We'd like to remind you about all the things she doesn't need to know, just so you can work on keeping that yapper shut and keeping your relationship on calm waters.

You hooked up with the hot female bartender

There's something deep inside a man that means he can't help but boast. Think about how we were as little kids, always bragging who scored the most goals, who had the best bike, whose dad was the toughest. It's something we men never quite grow out of.

So when you spot that really fine bartender you once made it with, there's a part of you that wants the whole world to know all the details of the sordid encounter. However, if you're with your woman, you have to learn to tell that part of you to shut the hell up because there are things she doesn't need to know, and this is definitely one of them.

It's best to avoid mentioning details regarding any woman you've hooked up with. You might think you have a good reason -- your girl could have jokingly knocked your masculinity or revealed a hookup of her own -- but it's best to just let it go. Pointing out every woman that's been lucky enough to spend time in your company will just lead to resentment and tit-for-tat comparisons of past conquests.

You lived with your parents until recently

OK, so sometimes things don't go as planned and you end up back with the folks. There are many valid reasons why a guy may be forced to move in with his parents for a while -- he might have had a bad breakup, or maybe he just finished college and is broke, or his own house was destroyed by an act of God. No one will think any less of him, right?

Wrong: Living with your parents past the age of 21 hardly conveys the impression of a strong, independent man, now does it? First off, while you're still there, you shouldn't be dating. A one-night hookup ending at her place is fine, but nothing long-term. Wait until you're out of there and in your own place.

Once you are dating, mentioning the slip in living circumstances is one of the things she doesn't need to know. If she finds out that living with mom and dad is always an option for you, she'll do one of two things: Get rid of the loser or start to dominate the mama's boy. Neither of which you want.

The bad things your buddies are up to

Everyone's buddies do bad things -- hell, sometimes we even join them. Friendships between single guys are forged through long nights of drinking, screwing around and causing trouble. Women know this, and they don't like it.

So keep your mouth shut on all the reprehensible behavior your pals get up to, even if she seems to enjoy the stories -- secretly, she doesn't, and this is one of those things she doesn't need to know. In reality, your girl isn't happy to hear about Frank's latest DUI, the new girl that Dave knocked up or Charlie's obsession with hookers -- what she's doing is judging you by their actions.

In her eyes, the sins of all your friends rub off on you. If you relish telling the stories of their hell-raising exploits, your woman might get the idea that you want to be single again, and she'll want you to cut contact with those bad influences. At worst, she could even think you're out there sinning with them, which isn't going to be good for trust in the relationship.

The one that got away

At some point, couples have to talk about past relationships. It's one of those annoying things that fall into the intimacy and getting-to-know-each-other categories. The key is to make sure it's done in the quickest, least-detailed way possible because you need to remember there are things she doesn't need to know, especially about your past.

You don't need to over-elaborate on the details of each girl and why she was so special to you. Keep it simple: her name, how old you were, how long it lasted, and maybe why it ended. Please don't tell her all about that one special girl.

What the woman in your life really doesn't need to know is that one girl came and changed everything, and that every other woman you meet will be judged by the high standards she set. And you really wish the two of you could have made it work. And that, if you met her again one day, you'd beg for a second chance. All that stays in the past.

You look at porn a number of times a week

Porn, thanks to the wonders of the World Wide Web, is everywhere. Gone are the days when magazines and videos had to be bought in an embarrassing transaction with a grubby little man behind the counter. Now, the full spectrum of sexual tastes and perversions can be viewed with a few strokes of the keyboard.

Not that you'll ever fully admit this to your girl. Most women don't like the idea of their man spending his evenings in the company of three hot and oiled-up cheerleaders, even if they are only stored on his hard drive.

Sure, she'll have an idea that you occasionally stumble across it. And that's the line you should stick to: Every once in a while you get a little curious and take a peek. However, make sure she doesn't know you do it every evening, or each time she goes out to the store or, sometimes, all weekend.

You liked her friend first

Sometimes it happens: Guys end up dating the wrong girl. Maybe they went to talk to one and ended up hitting it off with her friend instead. Or a female friend got confused and set them up on a date with a different pal than the one they had originally wanted. You think things are going well, so maybe your girl should hear the funny story?

No. No. No. She won't think it's amusing or be amazed by all the little coincidences that brought the two of you together. What she will think is you can never be trusted with that friend of hers again.

Most of all, your girl will be hurt that she wasn't the one who attracted your attention from the beginning. Think about it: if she told you she wanted to talk to someone else, got stuck with you, and eventually dated you, would you feel worthwhile? Didn't think so.

Think before you speak

Not everything from your past should be common knowledge. No one's suggesting that you should build a false life and dupe some poor chick into being with you. However, covering up some details will help your relationship's chances of survival. And if she does try to call you on your secrecy, just tell her you can't help being a man of mystery.

*taken from http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/whathethinks/0,,askmen_d7bq30tq,00.html?nlcid=ls%7C07-23-2009%7C*

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Mengenali Pria “Gay” dari Jari Tangannya 0 comments

Konon, gay atau tidaknya seorang pria bisa diintip dari bentuk jari tangannya. Cuma mitos? Ternyata tidak, ada riset ilmiahnya.

Bila bicara soal mendeteksi pria gay, kebanyakan orang akan langsung menilai dari fisik. Kalau gayanya kemayu, gerakannya gemulai, atau pakaiannya necis dan wangi, barangkali kita akan langsung bergumam dalam hati, “Hmm… pasti dia gay.”

Ada juga mitos yang mengatakan, gay tidaknya seorang laki-laki bisa dilihat dari jari-jemari tangannya. Ternyata, mitos ini ada benarnya. Hal ini disebut dengan digit ratio theory. Beberapa penelitian telah membuktikan kebenarannya.

Coba perhatikan jari tangan Anda. Bila jari manis tangan kanan Anda lebih panjang dari jari telunjuk, itu berarti Anda punya banyak hormon testoteron dan cenderung lebih hiperaktif, agresif, dan tidak suka sesuatu yang lamban.

Sebaliknya, jika jari telunjuk lebih panjang dari jari manis, berarti hormon estrogen Anda lebih banyak sehingga sifat Anda pun cenderung sensitif dan emosional. Lantas, apakah orang yang jari telunjuknya lebih panjang berarti homoseksual? Ternyata tidak juga.

Justru orang yang panjang jari telunjuk dan jari manisnya sama panjang kebanyakan adalah homoseksual (baik pria atau wanita). Sebuah studi yang dilakukan oleh Wndy M Brown dan timnya yang dimuat dalam Archieves of Sexual Behavior ikut menguatkan hal tersebut.

Dalam studinya, Brown menemukan bahwa ada hubungan tak langsung antara rasio panjang jari manis dan jari telunjuk dengan perilaku lesbian pada wanita. Mereka yang jari manisnya lebih panjang punya orientasi seksual sesama jenis.

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