Surefire Signs He's Not Interested 0 comments

In our society, it has become increasingly difficult to turn down a girl who's interested in you without people thinking you're gay or weird. Fortunately, there are two ways to do it without anybody getting the wrong idea. The only problem is that one method is great and the other is terrible.

One night, I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and one of his friends from work when two girls started closing in on my boys. So I sat back and observed two very different styles of turning down women. One guy subtly conveyed to one of the girls that he wasn't interested in her, and before long, she got the hint and left with her dignity intact. On the other hand, his coworker went out of his way to be a jerk for no reason, and the girl left humiliated.

In case you didn't have this figured out by your first semester in community college, nobody wants to hang with the guy who makes other people feel bad on purpose. The funny, slightly cocky guy? Sure, everybody likes that guy (especially the women). The guy who's a jerk for no reason? Nope, everybody hates that guy. To make sure you fall into the first category — and preserve your reputation for future pickups in the process — here are some of the do's and don'ts for when you're not interested ...

Call her the wrong name
Everybody knows you know her name because she just told you five minutes ago — or maybe you've even known each other for months. You didn't just suddenly forget her name, and everybody knows it — including her. It's a stupid move that only speaks to your immaturity.

Ignore her
If there is one thing every girl wants more than a new pair of shoes, it's respect. Aretha Franklin made an entire career out of searching for some R-E-S-P-E-C-T. When you suddenly quit paying her any attention and ignore her altogether, you are being extremely disrespectful.

"Mistakenly" send her nasty messages about her
Don't send her e-mails, text messages or voicemail messages that you "meant to send to your buddy Tommy" saying that she's not your type or she has bad breath or other such nasty things. Not only will you hurt her feelings, but if she figures out you lied to her to get rid of her, she'll be doubly upset. And keep in mind that this might backfire on you if she decides to seek revenge.

So how do you let her know you're not digging her without being a jerk or embarrassing her? A combination of these do's should do the trick.

Ask her about her hot friend
Women love to give advice and they are jealous of each other. Use both of these well-known facts to your advantage, and ask her what you should do to hook up with her hot friend. While she may initially want to latch onto you more, she will ultimately get the hint that you're just not feeling her, and she'll probably even find a way to blame it on her friend — double bonus points for you.

Tell her you have a friend that is perfect for her
After you've decided she's not the one for you, use the information you've gathered on her to push her onto another guy. Point out how your buddy also cried when he saw the movie What Dreams May Come (1998), or any other common points they may have. Your buddy may be annoyed, but at least you'll be rid of her.

Let her know how busy you are lately
Anytime she tries to contact you or you run into her, cut the conversation short. Bring up work, school or any other excuse to justify the fact that you have to run. Just be sure to point out that you love whatever it is that is taking up all your time and that you wouldn't change a thing about your life.

Subtly highlight clashes of opinion
Politics, morals, values — there are all kinds of hot-button issues you can subtly drop that will turn her off. If you know she's a conservative, spout off something negative about the Bush administration and Fox News. If she has a kid, tell her you would never get involved with somebody who has children.

The not-so-direct approach
It sounds so simple, but spitting out the words "I'm just not that into you" can be extremely difficult. Get around this by letting her know that you're just looking for a good time. Say something along the lines of how much you would love to hook up, but you respect her too much to make her just a "friend with benefits."

Reject the right way
Being rejected is hard enough for anybody, and we've all been there at one time or another. But nothing is worse than having the person who rejected you make a fool of you as well. And keep in mind that letting her down easy is also a way to ensure that she doesn't tell all the women in town that you're a jerk; in other words, it's a form of dating insurance.

*taken from http://love.ivillage.com/snd/meetmarket/0,,askmen_9wjkljss,00.html*

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The Secrets of Dating Absolutely Free Online 0 comments

There are many advantages that come along with dating absolutely free online. Probably one of the best things is that you can get exactly what you want. Unlike real life, you don’t necessarily have to commit: maybe you’re just looking for a casual relationship, or just have someone to chat. You can invest exactly how much time you want in dating absolutely free online and you can stop whenever you want.

However, if you do want to find your soul-mate, you definitely have a broader range of choices with online dating. These websites are visited by thousands of people every-day, which is far more than you have the chance to meet in real life. To make the most from your dating absolutely free online experience, there are a few things you should know.

Online Dating Tips

If you want to build some quality relationships and improve your social life, here are a few simple steps to guide you through the online dating process:

* Invest quality time in your profile: If your profile is well-written, the one reading it will probably take you for a serious person. Invest as much time in your profile as serious you are about online dating.
* Post a quality photo: You shouldn’t oversell yourself, but don’t post a low-quality or blurry photo either. You should go for a clear photo in which you look well.
* Be honest: Try to tell the truth about yourself. You might want someone to fall in love with the real you.

Caution Signs

Just like in real life, most of the people you will meet by dating absolutely free online are genuine; however, you might have some unpleasant surprises also. Here are a few signs that should tell you to be cautious:

* The person you are talking to avoids a certain question – He/she probably has something to hide
* Your prospective date constantly gives you delayed responses or fails to call you when he/she said he/she would – He/She is probably not the kind of person you can trust
* The person tells you “I love you” right away or wants to meet you after just a few minutes of chatting – He/she is probably insincere
* Your prospective date doesn’t want to share photos with you – He/she probably has something to hide.

Safety Tips

Here are a few things you can do to make your dating absolutely free online experience both fun and safe:

* Meet in a public place, such as a restaurant or cafe
* Don’t give out personal information, such as home address
* Talk on the phone at least once before you meet in person
* If you sense something is wrong, it most likely is. Ask questions until you get rid of all your worries.
* Don’t answer ads from people that look for something else than you are. If you are looking for your true love, don’t answer ads from persons who just want a casual relationship.

Keeping in mind all these successful online dating tips and safety measures and trusting your instinct to tell if a relationship would work for you or not will ensure your dating absolutely free online experience will be even better than you’ve been expecting.

*taken from http://date-online-singles-personals.com/?p=7*

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Dating Advice For Men And Women 0 comments

A friendship that is forged via online dating is converted into a lifetime conjugal marital relationship if a man finds himself happy with the girlfriend he is dating.

The nature of the lady that he is dating should match his impression about an ideal wife, which he has always dreams about. The mutual likings may either be related to looks, attitude, behavior or moral values.

Almost all these factors play a major role in the final decision when a man selects a life partner among his girl friends.

There are different kinds of relationships. In some cases where the lady has a frivolous nature, the relationship never proceeds further. In these easygoing relationships, men are most often happy with the relation as it is, but hardly feel any urge to take it a step further from the point of social commitment.

The best trick for making a permanent impression on a man is to behave rationally and sensitively. Rational and non-impulsive behavior will help you achieve the desired objective irrespective of the apparent reluctant attitude of the man.

The man may observe your small gestures silently but he is sure to remember the same, when he gets down to measuring how well you come upto his own yardstick of evaluation. He would judge you on his desired comfort level and decide whether life with you would be a suffocating commitment or a lovely bonding.

There are some positives signs from a man to his would be wife that the lady should take care of. If a man feels satisfied about his ladylove, he might indulge in a comparison between her and all other ladies he knows, thereby taking pride in himself for choosing the best out of the lot. It is the positive attitude of a woman and the comfort level that a man shares with her, which compels him to propose to her.

If you are still unsure of where your relationship is heading to, march ahead by taking note of these factors as mentioned above.

*taken from http://www.gracenglamour.com/dating-advice-for-men-and-women*

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Top 10 Signs He's Interested in You 1 comments

There he is, the man of your dreams. He's sitting across from you at the coffee shop or standing at the opposite side of the bar. His eyes meet yours, a quick glance, and then it's back to his drink. Was he giving you a signal?

It's not easy to decipher the mind of the modern male, but learning to decode what his nonverbal communication truly means is an invaluable asset in the game of love. So in order to be sure you're reading him right, look out for the following 10 signs.

Leaning into Love:
If a guy is interested in you, you'll find that his body will lean forward toward yours. This move can be either very subtle or extremely "in your face" (literally!). It's his way of letting you know he'd like to get even closer. Once his interest is piqued, you'll both find it hard to pull away!

Keeping It Even Closer:
A vital aspect of the physical nature of romance is reciprocity. Translation: meeting his advances with your own. This not only signals your own interest, but also serves to keep his.

The Eyes Have It:
We've all heard the proverb, "The eyes are the window to the soul." If he's interested in you, he'll focus on you with those piercing peepers and hold it. Return his romantic gaze with a quiet smile and let him know that you are interested. He'll be at your side in no time.

Touching Is a Good Thing:
If a guy is interested in you, then he'll want to be near you. He'll also want to take every opportunity to touch you. Maybe it's your arm, your leg, your knee — it doesn't matter, as long as his presence is physical and affectionate. It's his way of letting you know he likes you.

Funny Meeting You Here:
Coincidence is out. Serendipity is in. Those so-called "happy accidents" may not be so accidental after all. Perhaps his "surprise" appearance at your favorite Starbucks or hangout is a signal that he's trying to connect with you (but doesn't want you to think he's a stalker!). Take this as a positive sign and make the most of your next encounter. You may find that you share more in common than just an addiction to double lattes.

Listen Closely:
How do you know that you have a guy's attention? When he's not talking about himself. It's that simple. The next time you're in a bar, listen closely to any table full of men and you will hear them speaking rapturously about their favorite subject: themselves. For a man to shut up and really listen to what you have to say, you know it must be love (or at least a strong attraction). He'll put that male genetic ADD to rest once and for all after he's found his Miss Right.

The Guy Who Liked Chick Flicks:
Okay, we all know he'd much rather be watching the big game, but it's an important sign if he shows an interest in the things you like as well. If he's happy to watch a movie you picked out or doesn't complain when it's time to hit the mall for a little shopping trip, you've made a serious leap forward in the dating game! Give him extra points if he makes the popcorn.

Funny Lady:
Can't tell a joke to save your life? Does he laugh at it anyway? Men are very in touch with their sense of humor (women often complain that men never take anything seriously, right?), so if he's sending some hearty laughter your way, it's a good bet he's looking at you as relationship material.

Confidence, Man:
If a guy's into you, you make him nervous. He'll get goose bumps or a rapidly beating heart just from being around you. Look for signs like unexplained laughter, sweaty palms and fidgeting. Guys always want to be in control of their emotions — we like to be in charge. If he has trouble doing that around you, it's most likely because you make him nervous and excited. Don't take it for granted; help him to relax, and he'll thank you by being a great guy you can depend on.

The Feeling Is Mutual:
Men and women have very different brain chemistries: She is verbal; he is not. He is driven by visual desires, while she is guided by her deep emotions. Women are taught to rationally express their feelings and feel no shame in crying, and men punch things. Therefore, if you get a guy to actually open up and express his emotions, consider it a major achievement in your relationship. Discussing your feelings for each other is a powerful bonding experience for the two of you and serves to strengthen a relationship for whatever challenges the future may bring.

* taken from http://love.ivillage.com/snd/meetmarket/0,,b5ld5rzj,00.html *

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Show You're Interested Without Appearing Desperate 0 comments

It's the question that hovers nervously at the back of every single girl's mind when she meets a guy who seems a. attractive, b. single and c. sane: "Am I acting too interested?" In fact, many of us play it so cool that we underplay our interest to the extent that we give the complete opposite impression. Warning: Distant can backfire just as much, if not more, than desperate.

A good flirt isn't desperate, aggressive or in the slightest bit offensive. Even if it turns out the guy you're flirting with is attached or uninterested, a good flirt will still leave him feeling complimented, rather than offended. The trick is to use techniques you feel comfortable with, and to adjust the volume depending on his reaction. It's easier than it sounds, so slide into that sexy little black number and try these simple "I'm available" signals next time you're out with the girls.

* Wear high-heeled shoes:
Women worry about the size of their bums, but bums that stick out are consistently judged as sexier than little bums that don't. High heels, on average, make your bottom protrude by 25 percent more (emphasis on the word "protrude," as opposed to "makes your bum look bigger"). If you really want to make him sit up and pay attention, team the heels with a pair of tight-ish jeans and put your hand in the back pocket.

* Dangle a shoe:
Shoes say a lot about your sexual mood. Sometimes you'll slip our foot in and out of a shoe (no prizes for guessing what you're secretly thinking when you're doing that one). Or you'll dangle it on the tip of our toes (keeping him dangling at the same time). Cross and uncross your legs in front of a guy, the more interested you are. I believe they teach this to men in pre-school.

* Go for the one-two punch:
Want to really see him sweat? Cross your legs while holding eye contact and turn toward him. Next, let your high-heeled shoe drop until it's dangling from your toe. Then begin to slowly and seductively move your foot up and down in a thrusting (get the picture?) motion. Note, this only works with high, sexy heels. The effect is dampened somewhat if you attempt it with sneakers or sensible flatties. (Sorry, but I didn't promise comfort along with flirtability!)

* Teach with touch:
Once he's talking to you, stroke your collarbone absentmindedly with the ring finger of the opposite hand. Maintain eye contact with him as you're doing it, and let your hand rest there when you've finished. (If stroking doesn't feel natural, just leave your hand there. Splay your fingers and lift your hand so just the tips of your fingers touch.)

* Turn up the heat:
Now throw your head back slightly. (It will look the most natural if you wait until the next time you laugh.) Move your hand to the base of your throat. Now ever so slowly, let your fingers slide down your throat toward your breasts. Stop just where your cleavage starts and let your fingers rest there. Keep them there as long as he talks but when you talk, remove your hand. Can you think of a better incentive for him to keep talking to you?

* Think dirty:
Conjure up a naughty scenario where the two of you are having sex. Keep it running through your heard, then glance at him while slowly stroking your bottom lip with your index finger. If you can pull it off, lower your head slightly as you're looking at him. Why? It lets him know that you're thinking something very naughty and makes him wonder what on Earth is going through your head. To really seal the deal, say something like, "Sorry, what were you saying? I got a bit lost there." It's particularly effective if he was saying something he thought you'd be mega-interested in (like the fact that he owns a private jet).
NOTE: It's crucial with this one that you maintain eye contact, or it sends the opposite signal that you drifted off because you were bored.

* Take it down a notch:
Does this is all sound a bit contrived and girly for you? Then do any one of them in a more subtle way, working on his subconscious. The trick is to experiment with volume control and adapt them to suit you. (Practice in front of the mirror to get an idea of what the techniques look like.) Can't bring yourself to stroke your bottom lip? Look at his mouth while he's talking instead. Also watch his reaction: If he's clearly enjoying himself, feel free to up the ante and be more overt with the techniques. If he's shy or you're not sure, keep them simple and play them down a little.

Flirt Test

"How do I know if he's flirting with me?" is one of the questions people ask me most often. And I can see why. It truly isn't that easy to figure out if someone really is flirting with you, or just being incredibly friendly—especially if it's someone you don't know. Some people flirt so often, they do it in their sleep. They don't care if it's a man, woman, dog, cat or ladybug: If it's got a pulse, they'll flirt with it. Needless to say, if someone like this aims some killer smiles your way, it could mean absolutely nothing. For someone who's quite shy, simply standing still and talking to you is their equivalent of flirting outrageously. And that leads us to this main question: Do they always act like this, or is this behavior just for me?

Once you've figured that out, another question immediately pops up: What kind of flirting is it? What's his intention? Is it a bit of harmless fun, designed to give both of you an ego boost and a giggle? Is he thinking of a your-place-or-mine-type scenario, or maybe a ride-off-into-the-sunset situation? Is it any wonder, a lot of us think, "Oh I give up!" at this point and head straight for the bar? (And that only confuses the issue even further! You think your judgment's iffy now? Wait until you've had a couple.) Unfortunately, it's impossible for me to give you a surefire guide on whether someone's flirting with you or not. People are far too individual for that. But I can give you some pretty good tips that should well and truly point you in the right direction. So here goes.

* Forget about what he's saying, and focus entirely on his body language:
If possible, let him rattle on while you have a good look at what's going on. What clues is he giving? Is he standing close? Looking at you a lot? Does he seem to be focused entirely on you, or looking around as though he's just passing time?

* Check your own body language:
Are you giving off the right signals to the guy you're interested in? Are you facing him with your body square? Are you sending the right eye-contact signals? Standing close? Leaning forward with your upper body?

* Apply "the rule of four":
To be pretty certain someone fancies you, he must show a minimum of four positive body language signals (directed at you obviously, as opposed to the gorgeous blonde standing beside or behind you).

* Deliberately change your position and see if he follows you:
It's the mirroring thing again: If we're keen on someone, we try to stay on the same level as them. So if you change your position, he should follow by imitating whatever new posture you've adopted.

A word of warning here: Make sure you don't do this too abruptly or shift into negative body language, or he'll think you're suddenly not interested. People mirror bad body language, as well, and if you suddenly sit back, cross your arms and look down your nose at him, chances are he'll think the game is over and do the same! Instead, try something like leaning over and swirling a straw in your drink, placing a hand, palm down, on top of the table closer to his side than yours, etc—something he could easily mirror without looking silly.

Finally, flirt more intensely
The best way to find out if he's flirting with you is to assume he is and flirt back. At this point, forget being subtle; intensify all the body language signals you've learned. Try leaning in really, really close and see if he leans in to join you. Touch him on his upper arm and leave your fingers there for a minute or so. Does he pull away or seem comfortable with your touch? Wait for a pause in the conversation, then hold his eye contact for four seconds with your sexiest eyes without saying a word. Then let a slow smile spread across your face. This very obviously says, "I think we're flirting," without you having to say anything out loud.

If he smiles back and continues doing all he's been doing, rest assured, you've hit a home run. If, however, he makes an excuse to leave at this point, that means he was just flirting for fun and not for an end result—and you just upped the odds to stakes that were too serious. (Never mind, better to find out earlier in the game than later!) If all else fails and he still doesn't ask for your phone number when you're about to part, take a deep breath and ask him for his! It could simply be a case of him being shy or thinking you're way out of his league.

Don't miss out on any fun!

* taken from http://love.ivillage.com/snd/meetmarket/0,,traceycox_d7058kmr,00.html*

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Jam Piket Organ Tubuh ... 0 comments

* LAMBUNG
Jam 07.00 - 09.00
Jam piket organ lambung sedang kuat, sebaiknya makan pagi untuk proses pembentukan energi tubuh sepanjang hari.
Minum jus atau ramuan sebaiknya sebelum sarapan pagi, perut masih kosong sehingga zat yang berguna segera terserap tubuh.

* LIMPA
Jam 09.00 - 11.00
Jam piket organ limpa kuat, dalam mentransportasi cairan nutrisi untuk energi pertumbuhan. Bila pada jam-jam ini mengantuk, berarti fungsi limpa lemah.
Kurangi konsumsi gula, lemak,minyak dan protein hewani.

* JANTUNG
Jam 11.00 - 13.00
Jam piket organ jantung kuat, harus istirahat, hindari panas dan olah fisik, ambisi dan emosi terutama pada penderita gangguan pembuluh darah .

* HATI
Jam 13.00 - 15.00
Jam piket organ hati lemah, bila orang tidur, darah merah berkumpul dalam organ hati dan terjadi proses regenerasi sel-sel hati.
Apabila fungsi hati kuat maka tubuh kuat untuk menangkal semua penyakit.

* PARU-PARU
Jam 15.00 - 17.00
Jam piket organ paru-paru lemah, diperlukan istirahat, tidur untuk proses pembuangan racun dan proses pembentukan energi paru-paru

* GINJAL
Jam 17.00 - 19.00
Jam piket organ ginjal kuat, sebaiknya digunakan untuk belajar karena terjadi proses pembentukan sumsum tulang dan otak serta kecerdasan.

* LAMBUNG
Jam 19.00 - 21.00
Jam piket organ lambung lemah sebaiknya tidak mengkonsumsi makan yang sulit dicerna atau lama dicerna atau lebih baik sudah berhenti makan

* LIMPA
Jam 21.00 - 23.00
Jam piket organ limpa lemah, terjadi proses pembuangan racun dan proses regenerasi sel limpa. Sebaiknya istirahat sambil
mendengarkan musik yang menenangkan jiwa, untuk meningkatkan imunitas.

* JANTUNG
Jam 23.00 - 01.00
Jam piket organ jantung lemah. Sebaiknya sudah beristirahat tidur, apabila masih terus bekerja atau begadang dapat melemahkan fungsi jantung.

* HATI
Jam 01.00 - 03.00
Jam piket organ hati kuat. Terjadi proses pembuangan racun/limbah hasil metabolisme tubuh. Apabila ada gangguan fungsi hati tercermin pada kotoran dan gangguan mata. Apabila ada luka dalam akan terasa nyeri.

* PARU-PARU
Jam 03.00 - 05.00
Jam piket organ paru-paru kuat, terjadi proses pembuangan limbah/racun pada organ paru-paru, apabila terjadi batuk,bersin- bersin dan berkeringat menandakan adanya gangguan fungsi paru-paru. Sebaiknya digunakan untuk olah nafas untuk mendapatkan energi paru yang sehat dan kuat.

* USUS BESAR
Jam 05.00 - 07.00
Jam piket organ usus besar kuat, sebaiknya biasakan BAB secara teratur.

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Nine Words Women Use ... 0 comments

1. Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

4. Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

5. Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

6. That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a woman can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake..

7. Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' . that will bring on a 'whatever').

8. Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F--- YOU!

9. Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.

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