Just The Way You Are ...

Wednesday night ...

Tadi siang a friend called me.... dia lg crowded bgt n needed to talk to me ..... Helloooo ..... what on earth could possibly make a man so ruined like that ???
Tadinya dia ga bs ngomong apa2.... then he calmed down... sampai akhirnya dia nyeritain apa yg mbebanin dia ....

Then the story revealed ...

He used to have a relationship with this girl.... he loved her so much .... But this girl seemed not to care bout simple things like : let him know what she was doing, where she were...etc...
He didn't expect her to call him 3times a day .... just a simple sms, to let him know ....
But the girl didn't do it, maybe coz she thought it's not a big deal ... but for my friend it was ...
It happened again n again ... she still didn't care .... they often argue bout this .... then one day they had a big fight, n broke up ... he's the one who took the final decision, coz he knew there's nothing he could do bout this ...

As time goes by, he still keep in touch with her ... well actually he's the one who call first ... most of the time ... this was what he told me lhoooo ... :)

Until today, he called her on the cell phone, n got rejected...7times ... n it broke his heart, he felt rejected, that he's loosing her ... he felt that she rejected him without any specific reasons ...

He asked for my opinion , n what to do ...

Then I told him ...

When u have a relationship ... it would be for good ....
Semua orang punya kekurangan, tapi ada yg bs ditoleransi dan ada yg tidak ... So u have to think it over n over again .... bisakah kamu menerima kekurangan dia ... we're not talking bout 1-2 years here, but for a lifetime ...
Can u deal with it ??? Kalo itu tdk mengganggu kamu ... go ahead, fight for it ....
But if u can't stand it anymore .... then u'd better do something, coz this kind of relationship wouldn't go anywhere ... u're just wasting ur time, n hurting each other ... so what ???
Kalau dr awal sdh ada perbedaan prinsip, dan tidak ada titik temunya... no matter how hard u've tried .... then just let it go .... it's not worth it ...
Krn aq percaya pd apa yg namanya Mutual Relationship .... semuanya hrs datang dari kedua belah pihak ... tdk bs hanya satu pihak saja yg terus2an berusaha ... hrs ada niat baik, kerjasama n komunikasi antara both of u .... as a couple ...

I'm not trying to judge anyone here ... I just speak out my opinion, my feelings bout this kind of situation .... sbg pihak luar I can see it clearly, no subjectivity here ... Hopefully u can see it clearly now too, my friend ...

One thing I know for sure ... when u love someone .. don't ever try to change him / her .... useless ... coz the change won't come from the heart ... Jika dia berubah hanya krn kamu memintanya ... dia akan berubah, sure ... but it won't take long ... krn dia akan kembali ke sifat asalnya ... knp ??? Krn dia berubah bukan krn ingin ... but because u ask him/her to ... n he/she'll do it ... just to please u ... tp sampai kapan ???

Aq jd inget laguna Billy Joel ... the lyrics go this way :

JUST THE WAY YOU ARE

Don't go changing, to try and please me
You never let me down before
Don't imagine you're too familiar
And I don't see you anymore
I wouldn't leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times, I'll take the bad times
I'll take you just the way you are

Don't go trying some new fashion
Don't change the color of your hair
You always have my unspoken passion
Although I might not seem to care

I don't want clever conversation
I never want to work that hard
I just want someone that I can talk to
I want you just the way you are.

I need to know that you will always be
The same old someone that I knew
What will it take 'till you believe in me
The way that I believe in you.

I said I love you, and that's forever
And this I promise from the heart
I could not love you any better
I love you just the way you are


God ... I wish someday .... I'll find someone who loves me just the way I am .....

IK