Top 10: Ways To Spark Attraction

When it comes to succeeding with women, the name of the game is ATTRACTION. If you don't know what sparks attraction in a woman and how to use that knowledge to make her FEEL it, you're going to have a lot of lonely nights. But once you master this invisible force… well, you'll have more women in your life than you can handle. Here are 10 tips to spark that magical feeling of attraction in the women you want.

Number 1
Bring out her animal responses
In the animal kingdom, different animals have signals that tell their mate of choice they're interested. When the male uses one of these signals, the female actually becomes PARALYZED and freezes in a sexually aroused position. Women respond in a similar way to several specific behaviors from men. So if you want to turn her on in a BIG way, smell her neck and shoulders… pull her hair gently by running your hand up the back of her neck and her hair, then make a fist and pull lightly… breath in her ear and whisper a compliment to her or bite her neck gently. Warning: Use these moves with caution -- you may create a WILD ANIMAL that will stop at nothing to get what she wants from you.

Number 2
Drive her CRAZY with anticipation
Here’s a killer move that will send ANY woman's attraction for you through the roof: I call it "Two Steps Forward, One Step Back." At each phase of contact -- like holding hands, kissing, and so on -- STOP and lean back for a minute or two BEFORE moving to the next "level." Let's say you're kissing a woman; instead of rushing in and trying to touch her body, stop kissing her and just look her in the eyes. THEN start kissing her again. The more you hold back and make her wait, the more she'll want you to CONTINUE. Creating and playing with "sexual tension" like this is a recipe for some SERIOUS chemistry.

Number 3
Kiss her
Let's face it: When it's time for the first kiss, most guys get a bit freaked out and start acting nervous because they don't know exactly what to do. If you're talking to a girl and you want to know if she's ready to be kissed, here's what you can do: Reach over and touch her hair while you're talking and make a comment about it. You might say, "Your hair looks so soft," and just touch the tips of it. If she smiles and likes this, reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets you keep touching her hair, you know she's ready for you to kiss her, so give her what she wants.

Number 4
Be TOO comfortable
When a man is intimidated by a woman, she ALWAYS knows. How? Because he'll behave in ways that subtly tell her he's not comfortable with himself, with her and with the situation. The solution is to go to the OPPOSITE EXTREME and create the feeling that you're TOO comfortable. Mimic something she's doing in a funny way -- for example, if she has a really rigid posture, sit up extra straight and say, "I really think you should work on your posture." People are only playful like this when they're feeling comfortable, so this behavior will send the message that you're not intimidated by her in the slightest.

You can also pick up something small like a napkin and swat her with it, especially after you've made fun of her and she's pretending the comment bothered her. Most men don’t have the guts to be this bold, so when you DO, she'll see you as a cut above other guys.

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Number 5
Put yourself on a pedestal
How would you act if you KNEW beyond the shadow of a doubt that a woman was TOTALLY into you but you weren’t THAT interested in her, and that you decided RELUCTANTLY to give her a chance to hang out with you? What if you were a bit arrogant, but still in the mood to have fun with it and tease her to see how much she really wanted you? Practice coming from this mental space and you'll find that it'll eliminate your nervousness -- INSTANTLY -- and it will give you the edge you need to project a confident, attractive vibe to ANY woman.

Number 6
The bad-boy look
Here are two undeniable facts about women:

FACT 1: Many women are attracted to the “Bad Boy.”
FACT 2: A woman knows if you’re a “Bad Boy” before you say a single word.

How? It’s by the way you LOOK -- and I’m not talking fashion here. It’s about the look on your face. Marlon Brando had it in the classic film A Streetcar Named Desire; James Dean had it in movies like Rebel Without a Cause and East of Eden. The combination of the furrowed brow, pursed lips and slightly squinted eyes triggers an automatic attraction-response deep inside a woman. You won’t believe how quickly this unique "look" will give you more of a bad-boy vibe and take your success with women to the next level.

Number 7
Pass her tests
If it were CRITICAL to find out what another person's TRUE character was like, and the stakes were high, how would you do it? The obvious answer is that you would create character TESTS for the other person and never TELL that person you're testing him.

This is EXACTLY what women do to men. Women look for things like dominance, drive and composure, and they test for these things by challenging men, changing plans at the last minute, playing hard to get, expecting special treatment, and so on.

How do you pass these tests and graduate to the next level? Realize when a woman is testing you and have the attitude of, “I can deal with any test a woman throws at me.” This strong, confident attitude will send her an undeniable signal that you're the solid kind of guy she wants to get to know better.

Number 8
Master conflict
Most men avoid CONFLICT as if it were an evil force, and when they do experience it, they HATE it. The fear of conflict keeps a lot of guys unsatisfied and unable to progress in life. When you learn to effectively handle and manage conflict -- whether it's with your boss, with your date, or even within YOURSELF -- you'll be on one of the most direct routes to real maturity. And everyone knows that women are irresistibly attracted to emotionally MATURE men. So ask yourself where you avoid conflict in your life and what you can do to get more comfortable with it. Whatever it is, make a commitment to get it "handled,” and women will LOVE you for it.

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Number 9
Keep the power
Ever been on a date and you could just sense that she had all the POWER? As if she had something that you desperately wanted and she KNEW IT? Most guys give away their power when they're with a woman. But do you think women are ATTRACTED to men who do this? No. The solution is to let her know that YOU are the one doing the "selecting," NOT HER. Show that you're picky about who you spend your time with and tease her about how she's screwing up her chances with you. Communicate that she's going to have to be on her best behavior to "qualify" for your time, and you'll be surprised just how far she'll go to get on your calendar.

Number 10
Stop trying to impress her
Most guys think that they need to IMPRESS an attractive woman. They try to be on their best behavior and not make any mistakes or say something that will upset or offend her. Of course, this leads to nervous, self-conscious, "stilted" behavior AND it creates a tense, uncomfortable atmosphere that literally KILLS any attraction she may feel for you. Instead, you need to practice remaining totally calm. RELAX and lay back. Stop thinking that you need to impress a woman and start expecting her to impress YOU.

IT'S ABOUT CONFIDENCE

Ultimately, if you relax and are comfortable with yourself, she will be more attracted to you than if you put her on a pedestal and act nervous. Remember: You’re just as much of a catch as she is. Now have fun with it.

*by David DeAngelo, http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating_top_ten_150/152_dating_list.html*